{"id":25046,"date":"2025-06-07T00:17:37","date_gmt":"2025-06-06T17:17:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/thoi-su\/nhung-dieu-nguoi-hanh-phuc-khong-chia-se-tren-mang\/"},"modified":"2025-06-07T00:17:37","modified_gmt":"2025-06-06T17:17:37","slug":"nhung-dieu-nguoi-hanh-phuc-khong-chia-se-tren-mang","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/?p=25046","title":{"rendered":"Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng"},"content":{"rendered":"
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H\u1ecd b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, \u00edt khi \u0111\u0103ng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i tr\u1eeb khi c\u1ea7n. T\u1eeb h\u00f4n l\u1ec5 \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec3n nh\u00e0, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac ch\u1ec9 chia s\u1ebb m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n nh\u1ecf cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia g\u1ee3i \u00fd c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i b\u00e0i \u0111\u0103ng g\u00e2y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh th\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t c\u1ee7a t\u1ea1p ch\u00ed Psychology Today<\/em> cho th\u1ea5y 42% \u0111\u00f4i \u0111\u0103ng v\u1ec1 nhau ba l\u1ea7n tr\u1edf l\u00ean m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 so v\u1edbi 12% \u1edf nh\u00f3m ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u0103ng v\u00e0o d\u1ecbp \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n

“H\u1ecd c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n m\u00ecnh \u0111ang tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh h\u00ecnh m\u1eabu t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u1ea1i cho th\u1ea5y m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111ang tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c”, b\u00e1o c\u00e1o n\u00eau.<\/p>\n

C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u00ecnh y\u00ean<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c chuy\u1ec3n t\u1eeb trung h\u1ecdc l\u00ean \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c r\u1ed3i l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1edbn trong \u0111\u1eddi m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Nh\u1eefng bi\u1ebfn c\u1ed1 nh\u01b0 chia tay hay m\u1ea5t vi\u1ec7c d\u1ec5 khi\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u00ecnh y\u00ean b\u1ecb x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac hi\u1ebfm khi chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u00ecnh y\u00ean c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng, nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u00f4ng khai qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh h\u1ed3i ph\u1ee5c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh y\u00ean kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 chi ph\u1ed1i. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, vi\u1ec7c suy ngh\u0129 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e3 qua c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2021 c\u1ee7a \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Harvard cho th\u1ea5y suy ngh\u0129 qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c (overthinking) d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn t\u01b0 duy ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c, gi\u1ea3m kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 giao ti\u1ebfp. D\u00f9 k\u00fd \u1ee9c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh y\u00ean kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i hay vi\u1ebft b\u00e0i d\u00e0i d\u00f2ng l\u00ean m\u1ea1ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ee9ng minh m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 \u1ed5n.<\/p>\n

Th\u00f3i quen h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e1c video Get ready with me<\/em> (chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb c\u00f9ng t\u00f4i) \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh tr\u00e0o l\u01b0u tr\u00ean TikTok, th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n th\u00f3i quen c\u1eadp nh\u1eadt t\u1eebng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u01b0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c trao \u0111i.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac hi\u1ebfm khi chia s\u1ebb th\u00f3i quen h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y l\u00ean m\u1ea1ng. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean \u0111\u0103ng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111i ch\u1ee3 hay ngh\u1ec9 u\u1ed1ng c\u00e0 ph\u00ea th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2022 c\u1ee7a \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Glasgow, \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean t\u1ea1p ch\u00ed Behaviour & Information Technology<\/em>, cho th\u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n gi\u1ea3m 30 ph\u00fat d\u00f9ng m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap t\u0103ng m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. V\u00ec th\u1ebf, c\u00e0ng \u00edt \u0111\u0103ng b\u00e0i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00e0ng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng vui v\u1ebb h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c c\u00f4ng khai khoe tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ecdn gi\u1eef k\u00edn c\u00e1c b\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u1ebfn l\u1edbn nh\u01b0 th\u0103ng ch\u1ee9c hay mua nh\u00e0. H\u1ecd lo ng\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 ganh gh\u00e9t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m ni\u1ec1m vui.<\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u F. Diane Barth \u1edf Trung t\u00e2m T\u01b0 v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd New York cho bi\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ea1nh tranh, kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd \u0111ang t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n

B\u00e0 nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh \u0103n m\u1eebng l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng khoe khoang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c t\u1eeb b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p.<\/p>\n

“V\u00ec v\u1eady, ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac gi\u1eef th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u k\u00edn \u0111\u00e1o, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c”, b\u00e0 n\u00f3i.<\/p>\n

C\u1eaft \u0111\u1ee9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/strong><\/p>\n

H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng tr\u1ea3i qua giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u0111\u0103ng nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft b\u00f3ng gi\u00f3 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c c\u1eaft \u0111\u1ee9t quan h\u1ec7, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi tr\u1ebb con m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. Vi\u1ec7c \u00e1m ch\u1ec9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng mang l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng mang b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft d\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y l\u00ean m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. H\u1ecd ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1eaft \u0111\u1ee9t v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, d\u00f9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng, v\u00ec h\u1ecd hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh y\u00ean trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

“Ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u00e2m tr\u00ed b\u00ecnh y\u00ean c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 h\u1ee3p l\u00fd, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ngo\u00e0i t\u1ea7m ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t”, gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Marty Nemko, ng\u00e0nh T\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc \u1edf \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc California, n\u00f3i. “D\u00f9 b\u1ecb xem l\u00e0 l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng, h\u1ecd v\u1eabn ng\u1ee7 ngon h\u01a1n nh\u1edd th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Cam k\u1ebft b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0 t\u1eadp gym hay \u0103n u\u1ed1ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh. Khi \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u1ed3 \u0111i\u1ec3m 12:01 s\u00e1ng, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 th\u00f3i quen c\u0169, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\n

Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Michelle Rozen \u1edf \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc California \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t 1.000 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 cho th\u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 6% gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

“M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u \u00edt ng\u01b0\u1eddi chia s\u1ebb tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng l\u00e0 c\u00e1c cam k\u1ebft \u0111\u00f3”, \u00f4ng n\u00f3i. Thay v\u00ec ch\u1ecbu \u00e1p l\u1ef1c t\u1eeb k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac ch\u1ecdn gi\u1eef k\u00edn cam k\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ef1 n\u00f3i l\u00ean.<\/p>\n

Ng\u1ecdc Ng\u00e2n <\/strong>(Theo Yourtango<\/em>)<\/p>\n

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H\u1ecd b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, \u00edt khi \u0111\u0103ng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i tr\u1eeb khi c\u1ea7n. T\u1eeb h\u00f4n l\u1ec5 \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec3n nh\u00e0, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac ch\u1ec9 chia s\u1ebb m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n nh\u1ecf cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. C\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia g\u1ee3i \u00fd c\u00e1c lo\u1ea1i b\u00e0i \u0111\u0103ng g\u00e2y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe tinh<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":25047,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"googlesitekit_rrm_CAow44a6DA:productID":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[447,7701,7702],"class_list":["post-25046","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoi-su","tag-mang-xa-hoi","tag-nguoi-hanh-phuc","tag-song-hanh-phuc"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25046","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=25046"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25046\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/25047"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=25046"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=25046"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=25046"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}