{"id":27179,"date":"2025-06-09T13:11:56","date_gmt":"2025-06-09T06:11:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/thoi-su\/goc-khuat-tam-ly-nguoi-doc-than-lau-nam\/"},"modified":"2025-06-09T13:11:56","modified_gmt":"2025-06-09T06:11:56","slug":"goc-khuat-tam-ly-nguoi-doc-than-lau-nam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/?p=27179","title":{"rendered":"G\u00f3c khu\u1ea5t t\u00e2m l\u00fd ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n l\u00e2u n\u0103m"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Ngo\u00e0i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 nghi\u00eam t\u00fac n\u0103m 20 tu\u1ed5i, Alyssa Yeo kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ai. C\u00f4 t\u1eebng rung \u0111\u1ed9ng, h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u00f3ng v\u00e1nh, kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00e0nh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/p>\n

Alyssa Yeo chuy\u1ec3n sang \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi do b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 gi\u1edbi thi\u1ec7u nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3<\/p>\n

“T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 r\u1ea5t c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng c\u1edfi m\u1edf, ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn, ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n su\u1ed1t nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m”, Yeo n\u00f3i. C\u00f4 s\u1ed1ng t\u1ef1 l\u1eadp v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o.<\/p>\n

Trong khi \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 khuy\u00ean Yeo h\u00e3y t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do, v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i lo con c\u00e1i, b\u1ec9m s\u1eefa, xung \u0111\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m hay r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

“Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n”, c\u00f4 n\u00f3i. “Kh\u00f3 tr\u00e1nh c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ecb b\u1ecf l\u1ea1i ph\u00eda sau khi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00ednh h\u00f4n, k\u1ebft h\u00f4n, c\u00f3 con. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i m\u01a1 \u01b0\u1edbc”.<\/p>\n

Yeo n\u1eb1m trong nh\u00f3m nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi “m\u00e3i \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n” \u0111ang t\u0103ng \u1edf Singapore. Kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t n\u0103m 2024 c\u1ee7a Vi\u1ec7n Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u Ch\u00ednh s\u00e1ch Singapore cho th\u1ea5y kho\u1ea3ng 60% ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i 21-34 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn trong s\u1ed1 n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. Kho\u1ea3ng 15% th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai \u0111\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb khi g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2022 c\u1ee7a \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Qu\u1ed1c gia Singapore cho th\u1ea5y 1\/3 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef 25-35 tu\u1ed5i ch\u1ecdn s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n l\u00e2u d\u00e0i do \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n t\u1ef1 do c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia cho r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n k\u00e9o d\u00e0i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi kh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00e2m l\u00fd, g\u00e2y lo \u00e2u, gi\u1ea3m l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5.<\/p>\n

Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Roy Chan, nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u00e1ng l\u1eadp ph\u00f2ng kh\u00e1m Cloaks and Mirrors (Singapore) cho bi\u1ebft lo \u00e2u xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb mong mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi v\u00e0 gia t\u0103ng khi nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm li\u00ean t\u1ee5c th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. \u00c1p l\u1ef1c c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn n\u1ebfu c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb7t th\u1eddi h\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau.<\/p>\n

\u00d4ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng th\u1ea5p th\u01b0\u1eddng xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n khi so s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang c\u00f3 quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y k\u00e9m h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed trong m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p tin r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh “kh\u00f4ng x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau”. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5, theo \u00f4ng, h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh khi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m h\u00f3a c\u00e1c k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, cho r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh thi\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c mu\u1ed1n g\u1eafn b\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\u00d4ng James Chong, gi\u00e1m \u0111\u1ed1c l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng c\u1ee7a trung t\u00e2m t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n v\u00e0 tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u t\u00e2m l\u00fd The Lion Mind, cho bi\u1ebft vi\u1ec7c so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khu\u1ebfch \u0111\u1ea1i b\u1edfi m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, n\u01a1i nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ecdn l\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m sai l\u1ec7ch nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

\u1ede c\u00f4ng s\u1edf, nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u01b0u ti\u00ean s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp k\u1ef3 ngh\u1ec9 ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eb7c quy\u1ec1n ng\u1ea7m d\u00e0nh cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n.<\/p>\n

“Do \u0111\u00f3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 ho\u00e0n ch\u1ec9nh khi \u1edf trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m”, \u00f4ng n\u00f3i.<\/p>\n

Ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 tin c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu khi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eadp trung nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi ho\u1eb7c gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, v\u00e0 kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u00edch ho\u1ea1t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ecb b\u1ecf r\u01a1i ho\u1eb7c “b\u1ecb t\u1ee5t l\u1ea1i ph\u00eda sau” l\u00e0m gia t\u0103ng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n l\u1edbn tu\u1ed5i c\u0169ng th\u00fac gi\u1ee5c h\u1ecd \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

“Quan ni\u1ec7m sai l\u1ea7m ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u1ed9i t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean gi\u1ecfi s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n”, \u00f4ng Chong nh\u1eadn \u0111\u1ecbnh. D\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u1ed9i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00edt t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i h\u01a1n, h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u t\u00e2m l\u00fd Jeannette Qhek, ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u00e1ng l\u1eadp kh\u00f4ng gian s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe Chill by Nette, cho bi\u1ebft c\u1ea7n nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n d\u01b0\u1edbi g\u00f3c \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc r\u1ed9ng h\u01a1n, xem \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n \u00fd ngh\u0129a thay v\u00ec kho\u1ea3ng tr\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

B\u00e0 nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn th\u00e1p nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a Maslow<\/em> v\u1edbi l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp c\u00e1c nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi theo h\u00ecnh kim t\u1ef1 th\u00e1p, t\u1eeb nhu c\u1ea7u sinh t\u1ed3n c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 th\u1ef1c ph\u1ea9m v\u00e0 an to\u00e0n \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c nhu c\u1ea7u cao h\u01a1n nh\u01b0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

Theo \u0111\u00f3, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o c\u00e1c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p h\u01a1n, trong \u0111\u00f3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n trong nhu c\u1ea7u k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u00e0 th\u00e2n m\u1eadt.<\/p>\n

“\u0110\u1ed9c th\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u1ea1m d\u1eebng m\u00e0 l\u00e0 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh mong mu\u1ed1n”, b\u00e0 n\u00f3i.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc khuy\u00ean b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 \u0111i u\u1ed1ng c\u00e0 ph\u00ea, xem phim ho\u1eb7c \u0111i ngh\u1ec9 ng\u1eafn ng\u00e0y m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u1ecbch tr\u00ecnh v\u1edbi ai.<\/p>\n

M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00ean coi \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 v\u00e0 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n, thay v\u00ec d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u thi\u1ebfu h\u1ee5t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. B\u00e0 Jeannette Qhek g\u1ee3i \u00fd ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tham gia c\u00e1c h\u1ed9i nh\u00f3m t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o, c\u00e2u l\u1ea1c b\u1ed9 s\u1edf th\u00edch \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch chung.<\/p>\n

“Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n n\u00ean d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o con ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 ai \u0111\u00f3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng hay kh\u00f4ng”, b\u00e0 nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh.<\/p>\n

Ng\u1ecdc Ng\u00e2n<\/strong> (Theo CNA<\/em>)<\/p>\n

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Ngo\u00e0i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 nghi\u00eam t\u00fac n\u0103m 20 tu\u1ed5i, Alyssa Yeo kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ai. C\u00f4 t\u1eebng rung \u0111\u1ed9ng, h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u00f3ng v\u00e1nh, kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n th\u00e0nh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Alyssa Yeo chuy\u1ec3n sang \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi do b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 gi\u1edbi thi\u1ec7u nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":27180,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"googlesitekit_rrm_CAow44a6DA:productID":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[899],"class_list":["post-27179","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoi-su","tag-singapore"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27179","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=27179"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27179\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/27180"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=27179"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=27179"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=27179"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}