{"id":28184,"date":"2025-06-10T15:59:21","date_gmt":"2025-06-10T08:59:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/thoi-su\/noi-dau-that-su-sau-chia-tay-la-gi\/"},"modified":"2025-06-10T15:59:21","modified_gmt":"2025-06-10T08:59:21","slug":"noi-dau-that-su-sau-chia-tay-la-gi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/?p=28184","title":{"rendered":"N\u1ed7i \u0111au th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 sau chia tay l\u00e0 g\u00ec?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Theo c\u00e1c ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Chandra Khalifian v\u00e0 Kayla Knopp, hai nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng M\u1ef9, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u00f3i tr\u00ean l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 “r\u1ea5t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi”.<\/p>\n

Chia tay \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt n\u1ed7i \u0111au. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do khi\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i kho\u1ea3ng tr\u1ed1ng k\u00e9o d\u00e0i, c\u1ea3 b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i l\u1eabn b\u00ean trong:<\/p>\n

M\u1ea5t m\u00e1t m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai ch\u01b0a k\u1ecbp h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh<\/strong><\/p>\n

Chia tay kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 kh\u00e9p l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 c\u00f2n ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai m\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 b\u00e0n b\u1ea1c c\u00f9ng nhau x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch sinh con, d\u01b0\u1ee1ng gi\u00e0 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i chi\u1ec1u ch\u1ee7 nh\u1eadt \u0111i d\u1ea1o c\u00f4ng vi\u00ean.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec5n c\u1ea3nh t\u1eebng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng b\u1ed7ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean m\u01a1 h\u1ed3, \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ti\u1ebfc nu\u1ed1i v\u1ec1 “nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e3”.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc g\u1ecdi \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 “m\u1ea5t m\u00e1t m\u01a1 h\u1ed3”, kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 g\u1ecdi t\u00ean nh\u01b0 m\u1ea5t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n hay t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n, nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn g\u00e2y \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch \u00e2m th\u1ea7m v\u00e0 dai d\u1eb3ng.<\/p>\n

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Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n ch\u1eef “ch\u00fang ta” trong danh x\u01b0ng<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 “t\u00f4i” m\u00e0 c\u00f2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a “ch\u00fang ta”. Khi chia tay, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 m\u1ea5t \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh m\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t vai tr\u00f2 t\u1eebng \u0111\u1ecbnh ngh\u0129a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0 v\u1ee3, ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh, ch\u1ed7 d\u1ef1a tinh th\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n

“Chia tay l\u00e0 tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u1eaft l\u00eca m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, m\u00e0 c\u00f2n bu\u1ed9c b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u1ea1i ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, \u0111\u00f4i khi t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea7u”, ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Khalifian cho bi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

Kho\u1ea3ng tr\u1ed1ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, d\u00f9 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac hay nhi\u1ec1u m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, v\u1eabn l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u1ef1a c\u1ea3m x\u00fac quen thu\u1ed9c. Khi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t, s\u1ef1 im l\u1eb7ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu h\u01a1n c\u1ea3 c\u00e3i v\u00e3.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u00f3i quen c\u1ea7m \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb m\u1ed9t tin vui, m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t trong ng\u00e0y, r\u1ed3i ch\u1ee3t nh\u1eadn ra kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n ai \u1edf \u0111\u1ea7u d\u00e2y b\u00ean kia.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean c\u1ee7a qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh bu\u00f4ng b\u1ecf v\u00e0 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua.<\/p>\n

T\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i<\/strong><\/p>\n

D\u00f9 vi\u1ec7c chia tay l\u00e0 do c\u1ea3 hai quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh hay m\u1ed9t ph\u00eda ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn mang theo c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c t\u1ed9i l\u1ed7i, x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5 ho\u1eb7c th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. H\u1ecd t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi li\u1ec7u m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ee7 ch\u01b0a?, c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u1ed7i do m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng? hay \u00e2n h\u1eadn l\u1ebd ra n\u00ean c\u1ed1 th\u00eam m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian.<\/p>\n

Theo ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Knopp, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb v\u0103n h\u00f3a coi c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 d\u00e0i l\u00e2u l\u00e0 “th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng” v\u00e0 chia tay \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi “th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i”.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. “\u0110\u00f4i khi, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 bi\u1ebft bu\u00f4ng tay”, b\u00e0 n\u00f3i.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i \u0111au th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf khi bu\u00f4ng b\u1ecf<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c chia tay kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. \u0110\u00f3 c\u00f2n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee7 t\u1ee5c th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf nh\u01b0 chuy\u1ec3n ra kh\u1ecfi nh\u00e0 chung, ph\u00e2n chia t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n, s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp l\u1ea1i t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh ho\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec1u ph\u1ed1i vi\u1ec7c nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y con c\u00e1i.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 nh\u1eafc l\u1ea1i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft th\u00fac, khi\u1ebfn v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1eebng \u0111\u00e3 li\u1ec1n, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i r\u1ec9 m\u00e1u.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 qu\u00ean \u0111i<\/strong><\/p>\n

Theo c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia, ph\u1ee5c h\u1ed3i sau chia tay kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 “v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua” hay “qu\u00ean \u0111i” m\u00e0 l\u00e0 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, n\u01a1i ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m. \u0110\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 t\u00ecm l\u1ea1i \u0111am m\u00ea t\u1eebng b\u1ecb b\u1ecf qu\u00ean, t\u1ea1o ra th\u00f3i quen m\u1edbi ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh ri\u00eang cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ho\u1eb7c k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

Quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh kh\u00f4ng tuy\u1ebfn t\u00ednh, s\u1ebd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y y\u1ebfu l\u00f2ng. V\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eadt Minh<\/strong> (Theo Psychology Today<\/em>)<\/p>\n

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Theo c\u00e1c ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Chandra Khalifian v\u00e0 Kayla Knopp, hai nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng M\u1ef9, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u00f3i tr\u00ean l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 “r\u1ea5t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi”. Chia tay \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt n\u1ed7i \u0111au. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do khi\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":28185,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"googlesitekit_rrm_CAow44a6DA:productID":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[169,9899,9898],"class_list":["post-28184","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoi-su","tag-chia-tay","tag-moi-quan-he-vo-chong","tag-noi-dau"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28184","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=28184"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28184\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/28185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=28184"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=28184"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=28184"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}