{"id":35011,"date":"2025-06-17T20:57:29","date_gmt":"2025-06-17T13:57:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/thoi-su\/hieu-tinh-cach-mot-nguoi-trong-10-giay\/"},"modified":"2025-06-17T20:57:29","modified_gmt":"2025-06-17T13:57:29","slug":"hieu-tinh-cach-mot-nguoi-trong-10-giay","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/?p=35011","title":{"rendered":"Hi\u1ec3u t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong 10 gi\u00e2y"},"content":{"rendered":"
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D\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u00e1c l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i, c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 ra 7 t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n “\u0111\u1ecdc v\u1ecb” t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

Kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean: T\u1ef1 tin hay ph\u00f2ng b\u1ecb?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Theo John Bowlby, cha \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a thuy\u1ebft g\u1eafn b\u00f3, c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1edbi ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c an to\u00e0n t\u1eeb thu\u1edf nh\u1ecf. D\u00e1ng \u0111i, \u00e1nh m\u1eaft, t\u01b0 th\u1ebf khi b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t c\u0103n ph\u00f2ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ti\u1ebft l\u1ed9 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01b0\u1edbng ngo\u1ea1i th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, n\u00f3i l\u1edbn, ch\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fa \u00fd. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu qu\u00e1 \u0111\u00e0, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 v\u1ecf b\u1ecdc c\u1ee7a b\u1ea5t an.<\/p>\n

Tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u01b0\u1edbc r\u1ee5t r\u00e8, nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 s\u1ee3 b\u1ecb ch\u00fa \u00fd cho th\u1ea5y m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c cao. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u00f4i khi s\u1ef1 l\u1eb7ng l\u1ebd n\u00e0y l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01b0\u1edbng n\u1ed9i s\u1eafc s\u1ea3o, \u0111ang \u00e2m th\u1ea7m \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng xung quanh.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i nh\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i v\u1eefng ch\u00e3i, \u00e1nh m\u1eaft t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n di\u1ec5n, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ch\u1ee9ng minh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m an to\u00e0n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 g\u1ea7n, \u0111\u00e1ng tin.<\/p>\n

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Khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m: Ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt hay gi\u1ea3 d\u1ed1i?<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u00ednh c\u00e1ch th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u1ed9 ra sau h\u1eadu tr\u01b0\u1eddng khi h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd, khi cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n xoay quanh h\u1ecd ho\u1eb7c khi ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n thay \u0111\u1ed5i, li\u1ec7u h\u1ecd c\u00f3 v\u1eabn l\u1eafng nghe? Ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ef1 luy\u1ebfn th\u01b0\u1eddng nhanh ch\u00f3ng m\u1ea5t h\u1ee9ng khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ti\u00eau \u0111i\u1ec3m.<\/p>\n

C\u0169ng h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u c\u1ea3m nh\u1ecf nh\u01b0 nh\u1ebfch m\u00e9p hay cau m\u00e0y. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n nh\u1ecf kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3 t\u1ea1o, l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh trung th\u1ef1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n t\u1ef1 cho m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn ch\u0103m ch\u00fa l\u1eafng nghe khi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i vai ch\u00ednh m\u1edbi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 nh\u1ea5t qu\u00e1n n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i: L\u1eafng nghe hay \u0111\u1ed9c tho\u1ea1i?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n lu\u00f4n b\u1ecb k\u00e9o v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd, ho\u1eb7c li\u00ean t\u1ee5c khoe ng\u1ea7m, l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a nhu c\u1ea7u kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n th\u00e1i qu\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft l\u1eafng nghe ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng, h\u1ecfi han ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 d\u1eabn d\u1eaft c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu, \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 linh ho\u1ea1t trong giao ti\u1ebfp.<\/p>\n

L\u1eddi h\u1ee9a nh\u1ecf: \u0110\u00e1ng tin hay h\u1eddi h\u1ee3t?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 v\u0103n M\u1ef9 Dale Carnegie, t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 \u0110\u1eafc nh\u00e2n t\u00e2m<\/em> t\u1eebng n\u00f3i: “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd ti\u1ec3u ti\u1ebft s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0m n\u00ean chuy\u1ec7n l\u1edbn”. Khi \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u00e1ng tin c\u1eady, \u0111\u1eebng nh\u00ecn nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a ho\u00e0nh tr\u00e1ng, h\u00e3y quan s\u00e1t c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd gi\u1eef nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a nh\u1ecf.<\/p>\n

“G\u1eedi link sau nh\u00e9” nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 g\u1eedi kh\u00f4ng? “L\u00fac n\u00e0o r\u1ea3nh u\u1ed1ng c\u00e0 ph\u00ea nh\u00e9” c\u00f3 th\u1eadt l\u00f2ng hay s\u00e1o r\u1ed7ng? “N\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n sau nh\u00e9” nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 h\u1ed3i \u00e2m kh\u00f4ng? Nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u1ecf n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 trung th\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

Theo l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft “cam k\u1ebft v\u00e0 nh\u1ea5t qu\u00e1n”, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng mu\u1ed1n gi\u1eef l\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec nh\u1ea5t qu\u00e1n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a nh\u1ecf th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u1ecdng tr\u00e1ch l\u1edbn. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, n\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c nh\u1ecf c\u0169ng th\u1ea5t h\u1ee9a, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 do thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 qu\u1ea3n ho\u1eb7c ng\u1ea7m xem th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1eddi gian, s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u1ebfu th\u1ebf: T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng hay khinh th\u01b0\u1eddng?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch th\u1eadt, h\u00e3y nh\u00ecn c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd c\u01b0 x\u1eed v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng mang l\u1ea1i l\u1ee3i \u00edch nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi thu ng\u00e2n, lao c\u00f4ng, nh\u00e2n vi\u00ean ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5.<\/p>\n

Khi l\u1edbp m\u1eb7t n\u1ea1 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i tr\u00f4i \u0111i, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1eadt v\u00e0 l\u00f2ng t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n s\u1ebd l\u1ed9 r\u00f5. K\u1ebb ch\u1ec9 t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi “ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u00edch” th\u01b0\u1eddng thi\u1ebfu l\u00f2ng tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n. K\u1ebb c\u1ed9c c\u1eb1n, tr\u1ecbch th\u01b0\u1ee3ng, coi th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u1ebfu th\u1ebf th\u01b0\u1eddng mang trong m\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c ph\u00ecnh to.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb hay l\u1ee3i \u00edch, l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc. H\u1ecd t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00ec ch\u00ednh gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb nh\u00e2n b\u1ea3n, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec m\u01b0u t\u00ednh.<\/p>\n

L\u00fac b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng: B\u00ecnh t\u0129nh hay b\u00f9ng n\u1ed5?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Xung \u0111\u1ed9t l\u00e0 thu\u1ed1c th\u1eed c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Khi x\u1ea3y ra b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, c\u00e1ch m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ti\u1ebft l\u1ed9 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00ednh b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9 ch\u1ec9 b\u1ecb g\u00f3p \u00fd nh\u1eb9 c\u0169ng n\u1ed5i n\u00f3ng, ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ph\u00f2ng v\u1ec7, t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m. Theo l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft h\u00e0nh vi nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a t\u01b0 duy “tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng h\u00f3a” v\u00e0 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee9ng nh\u1eafc, \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ea7n kinh y\u1ebfu.<\/p>\n

Tr\u00e1i l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec1m t\u0129nh trong b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng k\u00edch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 linh ho\u1ea1t nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n

K\u1ebft th\u00fac tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n: Tinh t\u1ebf hay v\u1ee5ng v\u1ec1?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi “b\u1ed1c h\u01a1i” gi\u1eefa cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n, ho\u1eb7c d\u00e2y d\u01b0a kh\u00f4ng d\u1ee9t khi \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ebft chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a thi\u1ebfu tinh t\u1ebf x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 EQ t\u1ed1t s\u1ebd bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch kh\u00e9p l\u1ea1i t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi ch\u00e0o v\u1eeba \u0111\u1ee7, \u00e1nh m\u1eaft nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng, ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p, nh\u01b0 c\u00e1ch m\u1ed9t b\u1ea3n nh\u1ea1c k\u1ebft th\u00fac \u0111\u00fang n\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea3o Nhi\u00ean<\/strong> (Theo Aboluowang<\/em>)<\/p>\n

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D\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u00e1c l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i, c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 ra 7 t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n “\u0111\u1ecdc v\u1ecb” t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean: T\u1ef1 tin hay ph\u00f2ng b\u1ecb? Theo John Bowlby, cha \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a thuy\u1ebft g\u1eafn b\u00f3, c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac m\u00f4i<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35012,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"googlesitekit_rrm_CAow44a6DA:productID":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[15264,15265,2552],"class_list":["post-35011","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoi-su","tag-nhin-nguoi","tag-tam-ly-hoc","tag-tinh-cach"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35011","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=35011"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35011\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/35012"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=35011"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=35011"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/quanghung.name.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=35011"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}